Little things matter too.

Is  your "Hiii" matter?! 


When i ask this question i want you to think yourself as a celebrity.  Yes you are unique in your own way and that makes you special to someone.

Everybody is down in some ways.  I'm sure you too.  I'm down to so many shits i can not put up here.  
Anyways I'm sharing my personal experience here that tough me recently that how much my attention matter to someone. And in a good way it reminds me that is something that worth everything. 

couple of days  ago i have a sweet Instagram encounter with a person i don't know that time.  Now if anyone knows me on Instagram they know that i don't reply frequently and if you are stranger to me,  chances are i already decline your massage request.  That's who I'm.  And i can't change that.  
I was spending my half time on instagram searching crap to time pass. And suddenly a message popped up. I saw. Ignored it first.  Because that's what i do generally. But then i saw a couple  MSG before that from same person and that's freaks me out.  I'm sure girls you can relate to that. 

But i have nothing to do so i decided to talk to him. I don't know i just got an instinct (always trust your instincts).  So i said hi to him and kinda trying to know him so that i can point out something wrong with him. That's what i do.  I judge people and tell them on the face, isn't it great? That makes me neurotic in their eyes but I'm fine with it. 
But our conversation continued and shit got interesting. So like every other girl i search him on facebook and guess what we already friends from i don't know how many years.. And then i opened messenger to chat and i found his text from 2015 to last couple months.. And for the first time my reaction was "that's so sweet". And we became friends.  I found a friend that day. And that makes me wonder if you are lucky; there are people to whom your hi matters. 

He doesn't need to know that how much down i was feeling that day.  How much i hate my life that day. How much  regret i was carried that day for so many reasons. But he took my mind out of it in a good way. And I'm thankful for it. 

Now i know that there are so many creeps out there who wants to hurt you took advantage of you. But when you are so lucky and everything is on right time and right place... Good things can happen... 

Whenever you are in doubt or feeling low remember don't give anything to them who doesn't deserve you or not know your worth. You don't know to whom you can mean a world..

YOU  DO MATTER.

(P. S.  This article does not encourage talk to strangers in any way. Its just one luck by chance case...
☺)

what it takes to be a great leader.

What makes leader a true leader????? it is very difficult task to be a person that everyone follows but if you are not good at this ,then it doesn't matter what great purpose you are going to serve ;people will not follow you and all the good deeds you done Its Just another waste of time. so what you can do to make people believe in you, trust you, and follow your positive intentions, have faith in you ;it all comes at a great price you need to sacrifice yourself to it.  you have to surrender yourself completely to make a great impact on your audience .

1.the first thing you have to do is clear your mind ..

  you have to be absolutely sure about what you want and whatever you are going to do will make a positive difference in our societyor not??? 

 if you are confused about your purpose you cant lead it's that simple..

2. second thing is you have to select a bunch of people that you're completely trust with all of your work..

 you have to select these people very carefully otherwise it cost you so much in future and not in the money but other things may go wrong ..

3.third step would be listen to everyone but filter all of that in your mind and intercept correctly what can be used for future references . Don't reject some one's Idea just because you don't like it consider it first and then tell them if this is going to work or not ..for that you need a very good communication skills.  you have to be good and always positive when you're dealing with your people.

 4 ..The thing is you have to see that you have flaws too. don't compare yourself with Mr perfectionist..

if someone tell you that you have something wrong in your methods you have to take it seriously and respond according to it.

 check every mistakes and try to improve your work and take a mental pledge  that you never repeat those mistakes in the future.

 now how to convince people to be with you? that's not an easy task if you're dealing with those who have narrow minded mentality.🤓 you have to be very careful because if you failed first then they will never believe in you after wards. so what you have to do is practice an imaginary scenario in your head and try to solve every single situations that might be occur when you actually deal with them .and by this if something comes up you are not going to feel strange 

another thing I want to add in this is there  will be a time when things don't work out and everything seems to be falling apart but you have to understand that it is only temporary ,I mean nobody get successful in just one night ...you know so in that difficult time you have to be patience and most importantly don't run from your people if you seems they are not cooperating. then there must be some reason don't blame anything on them unless proven . don't get upset with them and try to understand that they are giving you everything they have and now it's your time to stick with them in all ups and downs.

 don't tempt yourself with false one because they are everywhere, they will distract you from your friends, your family and try to break you in a sweet way that you don't even realize until it's too late and everything you ever built is falling apart.

 sometimes our friends tell harsh things but they are for your own good. 

 you have to lose something or someone for your own reputation. It's hard truth... 

 so keep these things in your mind and you will be successful leader in future..best of luck and.  thanks for reading.

Love your life. You only get one. 

Mrs. Fluffu. 🤗🤗

5 ways to improve yourself

Imagine you are playing a game that you love  with your friend or doing math quiz or talking very meaningfully with someone and they told you  used to be great in this, what happened? And so the first thing that you feel is shock. Why? Because you suddenly realize that you had a drawback in something that usually makes you good. And so it begin the ultimate thought of improving yourself and back in the  game.

So how to overcome on this?  What should you do that make things right on track again?

1. Do recalling.

 

Now its just brain exercise. Yes think about on few things first like when was the last time you felt the thrill of anything? when was the last time you were genuinely happy? What happened after that ? What changed you? If you want to go to another step than this is the most crucial stage. The stage of accepting the truth and tell out loud. Yes you must answer the above questions very honestly. Just honest to yourself. Don’t cheat on self. You should write down all the answer on plan paper. I know its old fashioned. Nobody uses a pen now. But it will help you to keep focused.

2. Going to points one by one.

 

Look carefully what you got so far. Think about what really goes wrong. When did you make mistakes? What circumstances you faced in the past so that to happen? Consider all the loose ends which needed to be tighten. Made up your mind that there's something wrong with you and you have to do overcome from that anyhow .whatever it takes.

3. Self pity.

 

Yes , you read that right my friend. You should feel bad about yourself. Pamper your mind that whatever happened is bad but in the end its all going to be okay. And everything will be back to what it used to be.

Remember that everything that ever happened to you was only because you let it. Yes that’s the harsh truth that you need to accept. You should always consider your own mistakes first before blaming on someone else. Because in the end you can not change other peoples, but only you.

4. What you gonna do about it?

 

Ask this above question to that part of your mind that is full of ego and self centered. Yes everybody has it. Meet your bad side, face it, challenge it. Hurt your own ego. Or else people will do it for you anyway. So after one doesn't  hurt much. Tell yourself that you desperately in need to one great plan to change yourself.

5. Make a plan and stick to it.

 

As you all already know that this is the trickiest part of anything. Anyone can makes a plan and the one cant ,they can get help. But that’s it you  only get a help to make a plan , in the end you are the one that has to follow it. For your plan to work out you have to keep two things in mind.

First of all you have to make small plan. Yes make just maximum 2 days plan and try to follow it. Learn from it. Observe yourself through out. Find your work of error. Once you get used to it the smaller one it makes it easy when you want to follow bigger picture.

Second thing is that you should allow enough flexibility to your plan that it become easy to follow yet accomplish your goal to the selective quota. For example. If you want to study some chapters in the morning but somehow you cant make it so what most people do is leave that there and then forgot about it completely. Or think that we will do it from tomorrow and then that tomorrow never came. So what can you do is you have to study those chapters in the evening. Never  leave incomplete works because it get messy in the end.

And last but not least that build up your own confidence, smile everyday. Trust yourself completely and love your life.

Love

Mrs.Fluffu.